It’s alarmingly amazing how superficiality has taken over our world. There’s even a thing now called “ring-shaming”. What’s ring shaming? It’s insultingly commenting on someone else’s engagement or wedding ring as somehow cheap, poorly made, and inappropriate for such supposedly glamorous occasion.
Instead of putting emphasis on the love and compatibility between couples, vain critics somehow has the extra time to check on their rings and assess their price. In previous generations, only the bride’s close family gets to comment on the ring her husband gave her. But now, people seemed to be noisier with other people’s affairs than ever.
Quinn and Ariel Macrae fell victim to this unethical demeanor firsthand, no not from a random stranger on social media, but face-to-face with a saleswoman in the jewelry store where they bought the ring.
Ariel rebutted the disrespectful woman right away. Still uncontended, she impressively shared a piece of her mind on Facebook:
“My husband doesn’t have a lot, neither of us do. We scrape and scrape to pay bills and put food in our bellies, but after almost two years of dating we decided that we couldn’t wait anymore. So we didn’t.
I wasn’t even thinking about rings, I just wanted to marry my best friend, but he wouldn’t have it. He scraped up just enough money to buy me two matching rings from Pandora. Sterling silver and CZ to be exact. That’s what sits on my ring finger, and I am so in love with them.
While we were purchasing my rings however, another lady that was working there came over to help the lady selling them to us. She said, ‘Y’all can you believe that some men get these as engagement rings? How pathetic,’
When she said that I watched my now husband’s face fall. He already felt bad because he couldn’t afford the pear-shaped set that so obviously had my heart and covered my Pinterest page. He already felt like a failure, asking me again and again, ‘Are you sure you’ll be happy with these? Are you sure this is okay?’
He was so upset of the idea of not making me happy enough and of me not wanting to marry him because my rings didn’t cost enough money or weren’t flashy enough.”
“Old Ariel would have ripped that woman a new one. Mature Ariel said ‘It isn’t the ring that matters, it is the love that goes into buying one that is.’ We bought the rings and left.
Y’all, I would have gotten married to this man if it had been a 25-cent gumball machine ring. When did our nation fall so far to think the only way a man can truly love a woman is if he buys her $3,000 jewelry and make a public decree of his affection with said flashy ring?
Sure they are nice, sure the sentiment is wonderful, and I’m not trying to cut down any of your experiences, but when did it come to all that? Why do material possessions equate love?
My husband was so afraid of me not wanting him because he couldn’t afford a piece of jewelry. He was afraid that the love I have for him would pale because he couldn’t afford the wedding set I wanted. The world has made it this way and it is so sad.
Here I am though, court-house married, $130 ring set, the love of my life by my side and happier than I could ever imagine.
Update: This post keeps growing (much to my surprise), and I’ve been asked a thousand times how we met. So here is a short version.
My husband and I met online at the age of 20, talked on the phone ( and I mean actually talked not text) for [more than] 6 hours a day for two days. He then drove an hour out of his way to take me on a date. I wore a tacky Christmas sweater (if you think I am lying, ask him).
We ate wings, had a burping contest, and drove around listening to music and singing. I fell in love with him on the first date. If he had asked me to marry him the first time we met, I probably would have said yes.
To be honest, we had wanted to elope three months into dating, but decided to take some extra time to get established beforehand. Ultimately we couldn’t wait any longer.. so we eloped. I’ve never been this happy in my life and I couldn’t imagine spending it with anyone else ever.”
Ariel definitely showed that rude saleswoman. Having read her post, it is evident that Ariel is a very smart girl. Most men could only dream being married with a woman with her wits and attitude. I’d say she actually deserve the most expensive ring money could buy. But apparently, there’s no need for that. She already have something worth more than any diamond ring that only a handful of people find in their lifetime, and that’s marrying your one true love.
We may be living in a material world, but Ariel is definitely NOT a material girl.
What gift that you still can’t afford have you been longing to give your partner? Do you love her/him more than your desire to please her/him with material gifts?